Despite Parkinson’s Caregiver Fatigue, I Love My Sister Unconditionally

Have you ever decided to work on a personal project or settled down just to relax, ready to welcome the time alone? If you’re a list-maker like me, you’ve carefully gone over your to-do list and checked every item off. Then, suddenly, it happens — the interruption. Aargh!

Someone texts you (or even worse, sends a group text), calls, or asks if they could stop in for “just a few minutes.” But dang, it was time to relax and take care of what I needed to do!

In caring for and about someone with Parkinson’s disease (PD), interruptions have become my norm. While inconvenient, I view them as a test of my patience and unconditional love.

I would never want my sister Bev, who has stage 3 PD, to think that I am tired of caring for her. I love and treasure her. But caregiver fatigue is real, and the duties can often be bothersome and ill-timed.

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Since I live in Arizona, and Bev lives in Ohio, I care for her through frequent conversations, virtual meetings, managing her finances and online bills, and providing tech support. Bev’s daughter (who lives with her de ella), son, and friends provide assistance with physical challenges such as balance and gait issues.

I’ve definitely had to practice “inconvenient love” with Bev — more so as time passes. By that, I mean I have to put her priorities first and lay aside my own de ella. Bev has increasing cognitive difficulty because of her PD de ella, so she’ll repeatedly call me to ask about the balance of her bank account or how to manage something on her cellphone or computer.

Moments writer Joe Duncan explains why love must be inconvenient:

“The guiding principles of our lives only become meaningful when we adhere to them in times of inconvenience or problems. Our moral character is truly tested upon the backdrop of pressure when the fibers of what we’re made of are put to the ultimate test — in no place is this more relevant than in our personal relationships with others who are significant to us.”

As one of Bev’s caregivers, there’s no escaping the inconvenient love required and the interruptions to my life. But for Bev and anyone else living with PD, the interruptions caused by the physical and emotional challenges of the disease have a far greater impact on their lives.

fellow Parkinson’s News Today columnist Mary Beth Skylis recently shared the following about her father, who has PD: “One thing about Parkinson’s is that it’s a daily reality — those who have it wake up in the morning, only to realize that Parkinson’s is still there. Every day is a reminder that there’s no escaping it.”

Through my faith, I have learned that loving people means always loving them—even when it’s inconvenient. Caring for someone with PD guarantees interruptions, especially as the disease progresses. It requires an “I am second” attitude. I pray that I can act with patience, compassion, and understanding when these interruptions occur.

Caring for someone and loving them was never meant to be easy.

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